Psychosexual Therapy

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Talking about sex isn't always easy.

 

Many people live with worries, frustrations, or questions about their sex life for months—or even years—before telling anyone. You might feel embarrassed, ashamed, confused, or wonder whether you're the only person experiencing these difficulties. In reality, sexual concerns are much more common than most people realise.

 

Psychosexual therapy provides a confidential, relaxed, and non-judgemental space where you can talk openly about whatever is on your mind.  Whether your concerns are emotional, physical, relational, or a combination of all three, we'll work together to understand what's happening and how things can begin to change.

 

Despite what social media, pornography, or popular culture might suggest, there is no single definition of "normal" when it comes to sex, desire, relationships, or sexual interests. Comparing ourselves to unrealistic expectations can leave us feeling inadequate or as though we're somehow getting it wrong.

 

Therapy offers the opportunity to step away from those expectations and develop a relationship with your sexuality that feels more comfortable, authentic, and enjoyable.

 

Sexual difficulties can arise for many different reasons. Sometimes they have a physical cause. Often they are linked to stress, anxiety, relationship difficulties, life experiences, trauma, or beliefs we have carried for many years. Understanding these influences is often the first step towards change.

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I Can Help With

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People come to see me for many different reasons, including:

• A loss of sexual desire or differences in desire within a relationship.

• Difficulties with erections or ejaculation.

• Pain during sex or difficulties reaching orgasm.

• Anxiety, worry, or loss of confidence around sex.

• Shame or guilt relating to sexuality.

• Pornography or compulsive sexual behaviours.

• Questions about sexual identity or orientation.

• Gender identity and exploration.

• Kink, fetish, BDSM, and alternative relationship styles.

• Consensual non-monogamy.

• The impact of sexual trauma or abuse.

• Difficulties communicating about sex and intimacy with a partner.

 

Whether your concern is something you've lived with for years or something that has changed more recently, you're welcome to bring it into therapy.

 

How We Will Work Together

Every person's story is different, so therapy is always tailored to your individual circumstances.

 

We'll begin by talking about what has brought you here and exploring the emotional, psychological, relational, and, where appropriate, physical factors that may be contributing to your difficulties.

 

Sometimes therapy involves understanding how past experiences continue to influence your relationships today. At other times, we might focus on improving communication with a partner, reducing anxiety, challenging unhelpful beliefs about sex, or using practical exercises between sessions to support specific concerns.

 

If you're in a relationship, it can sometimes be helpful for your partner to be involved in therapy, but this isn't always necessary. Many people attend individually and find this gives them the space they need to think openly about their experiences.

 

Above all, psychosexual therapy is about helping you develop a healthier, more satisfying relationship with your sexuality—free from unnecessary shame, pressure, or unrealistic expectations.

 

You don't have to know exactly how to explain what's wrong before you get in touch. If something about your sexual life or relationships doesn't feel quite right, that's enough. We can begin there together.